tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3692492367544688551.post87566457096246172..comments2023-09-17T03:17:08.359-07:00Comments on I Have No Intention of Saying Good-bye...surviving grief: death of a child: Using Medicines To Ease GriefSandy Foxhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01010029064187526219noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3692492367544688551.post-90121128430166854552011-01-12T19:58:45.819-07:002011-01-12T19:58:45.819-07:00We lost our 24 year old son 3 years ago. Our son a...We lost our 24 year old son 3 years ago. Our son and his wife have graciously allowed us to move in to a home, with our 4 grandkids (the house is 4000 sq feet, and we a a private space). However, my husband chooses to 'pick fights' with the DIL. We lost about everything after our son died, we spent three months in the hospital fighting. We couldn't work, and even after his death, I lost my job. Hard to song "If Your Happy and You Know It" to a class of 20 four year olds right after your son's passing. My husband worked with our son, and people called for months afterwards offering their condolences. Sales plummeted, and so did our income. We moved to a new state for a fresh beginning. This did not work, as he always we work overtime leaving me alone at home. Or he would say "I hate it here." Now, in another state with family, he still works overtime. And he still says "He hates it here." You suggest meds as a possible solution. Don't forget counseling. I do not know what to do with my husband. he wants to move back to our old hometown, as living with our DIL is 'intolerable' and "he hates it here." He never went to grief counseling. He never talked to anyone. He says he is fine, and we are picking on him. I am at a lost, as I do not want to go with him back to our hometown. I feel is still is bitter, but just cannot see damage he inflicts. He was a happy, outgoing-involved heavily in church person. Now, I have to drag him to church. He says he hasn't made friends at our new church. But at our old church, he turned down every invitation to go out with another couple! (he said, "oh, you can go if you want") Do you address this issue in your books?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com