Sunday, August 31, 2014
Ending the Silence
Part 2 Ending the silence
According to author Nan Zastrow, a suicide survivor, “Survivors need not be silent any more. What they long for is the reverberating echo of acceptance, understanding and peace. When you allow a survivor to teach you about the uniqueness of his or her grief, you may learn so much more about the sanctity of life,” said Nan in a talk she gave at the TCF conference.
She says she spent three years hiding from her grief, absorbing every bit of damaging pain, swallowing her hard-earned pride, admitting her feelings of defeat, and finding excuses for what seemed hard-to-believe before she learned she had the power to stop the silence. Survivors want to speak and be heard. Survivors want to let others facing the same tragedy know that they are not different—that loss of any kind still hurts.
The silence ends when survivors are willing to accept no-fault accountability.
The silence ends when survivors rise above society’s judgment, which is often misdirected, misinterpreted and heightened.
The silence ends when survivors quit trying to figure out “why” and accept that they may never know.
The silence ends when survivors realize their loved ones’ choice was not meant to destroy them.
The silence stops when survivors are unafraid to expose raw pain, disappointment and unpretentious conclusions.
The silence stops when survivors speak their loved ones’ names and honor their loved ones’ lives.
The silence stops when survivors remember the awesome memories and tell the unforgettable stories that bring comforting peace to their souls.
The silence stops when survivors hold their heads high and face adversity with determined pride.
The silence stops when survivors vow to coach other survivors to work diligently through their losses, override the taboos and free themselves from lingering grief.
The silence stops when survivors find peace in knowing they and their loved ones will “meet again.”
The silence stops when survivors accept that God put them in their loved ones’ lives to love, accept and believe in them unconditionally.
The silence stops when survivors choose to survive-and live beyond-the tragedies of life.